High School Pressures

High school can be a fun and exciting experience. High school can also be a bad and stressful experience, too. During your four years of high school you may fail a test in math, be bullied by mean kids, get into an argument with your friend, or fail to make a team. How you let it effect you is your choice. You have the choice to let it affect you in a negative or positive way. I’m not saying it easy to ignore a bully or study for a big test, however if you take little steps to improve your all-around happiness you won’t regret it.

During your high school years you can face a lot of pressure situations. In reality, there are very few important “pressures” that actually come along with being a high school student. Just so we make this clear, the important pressures are ones like earning good grades, completing your school work, and maintaining good character. These are just normal stuff that comes along with high school.

The negative high school pressures that I’m talking about are dating, drinking, and drugs. Take it from me, I am going to be a junior this year and I have never dated. Guess what? I’m fine. My personal opinion is dating right now is not best for me because I have goals in my life I want to accomplish. Dating would conflict with my goals. I am not saying you should never date in high school. I’m just saying be careful. Most people have goals that they want to accomplish whether it is for that particular year or for life after graduation. If you are not one hundred percent committed and focus to your goals, then dating can influence you and prevent you from reaching them. I have always told myself if I date in high school, then my boyfriend would have to understand my commitment to basketball and my other priorities. The reason I set this standard for myself is because my goals in life are very important to me and I don’t want anything to stop me from reaching those goals. Don’t be afraid to have this conversation before you become in a committed relationship. And hey, it’s high school! There is a very small chance you will marry this person anyway. My advice to you is never feel pressured that you have to date in high school.

The second and most important point I want to strongly stress to you is to not be one of those teens who fall under peer pressure by trying drugs and becoming drunk at parties. I cannot say this enough. There is nothing good about drugs and underage drinking. Unfortunately, we will continually to see underage drinking until people wake up. Many kids who have so much going for them will have it all taken away in the matter of minutes. Using drugs and alcohol have only negative consequences. You will get caught, possible loose a scholarship, be expelled from school, or unfortunately sometimes death occurs.

Please do me favor and more importantly, do you a favor. Don’t try drugs and alcohol even once. If you feel that you won’t be popular or one of the “cool kids” by not trying drugs, then you need to change your way of thinking. If you feel alone and you think that your emptiness inside would be cured by trying drugs, don’t listen to yourself. In fact, talk to me or reach out to a friend. There is always someone willing to listen and help.

High school can be such a fun experience. Don’t let silly things ruin the only fours years you have. Life is too awesome to become caught up in stuff that will bring you down. Remember, to always be yourself, stick to your morals and good things will come your way. I promise.

Much Lovemuch love,

Jae


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E is for Enough Effort?

When you hear the word “effort”, the first thing that probably pops into your mind is “how much work have I put into something”. Effort can really define you as an athlete. It can define you as a person. It can really impress a coach or it can really disappoint a coach.

Everyone gives effort. Some give more than others. Some give effort when they feel like it and some give effort all the time.

If you really want to be the athlete you say you want to be, then you must give good effort all the time and to your fullest capability. Like the old saying goes…”Give 110% all the time”.

Coaches notice more than you think. They will be able to pick out those athletes that give a ton of effort all the time and they will notice which athletes give effort only some of the time.

Learning to give effort as an athletes can transfer over to your everyday life. When things get hard in school or everyday life, do you push through to do your best or do you just do enough to get by?

There have been times when I have been guilty of not given full effort, especially when it comes to school. Have you found this to be true with you? Have you found yourself to tired to study for a test, not feeling like going the extra mile work on a skill, or thinking a certain assignment is simply to hard to even learn. Bottom line is, we have to continuously remind ourselves that we will get through the difficulties and we have to work hard at it!

I have an idea. Why don’t we set a challenge for ourselves this week. How much effort can we give? Let’s set a goal and give it more effort than we every have. And, let’s just not apply it to sports. Let’s apply to everyday life.

Much Lovemuch love,
Jae

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Being a Leader

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Different sports are played in different seasons, while some seem to always be in season. Whether your sport is in-seasons or  pre-season,  I hope your training is going well.

I wanted to take a minute and write about what it means to be the “point guard” or the “quarterback” of your team. Keep in mind, I am not just talking about the sport of basketball or football. I talking about what defines a leader of a team. Most often if you are placed in one of these two positions, you possess leadership qualities. This is not always the case. If you don’t currently have the characteristics of a leader, there is no reason why you cannot learn.

Characteristics of a Point Guard

Here are a few characteristics that are very important to possess:

  • Carry the Team on Your Back– By this I don’t mean you have the best stats on the team. What I do mean is the players on your team know that you have there back . You lead them to success. You take the blame for some things that you know it’s not your fault and you do things that help benefit the team.
  • Be an Encourager– Be your teammates biggest fan. Always clap and talk during practices and games. Be very enthusiastic and upbeat.
  • Always Make Eye Contact– Always know what’s going on. Regularly look your teammates in the eyes and show them you care. Be a great listener. Always have eye contact with coaches while they are teaching you and have a nice solid stance. Stand with feet shoulder width apart with your arms in front or behind your body. Do not lean on one leg looking around or day dreaming about what is going on after practice.  I can’t emphasize this enough….always make eye contact!
  • Be a Respectable Person – Be a great competitor on the playing field. Be nice and respectful to people. Post game, be sure to clean up after yourself or team. If you see a piece of trash, then pick it up and throw it out.  Have integrity and don’t just be a good person when your coach is watching. Be good person all the time. Simple remember…no trash on or off the floor!
  • Be Vocal – Direct your teammates and encourage them. You don’t just yell at them in a hateful manner because they made a mistake. Walk up to them and explain what they should have done, followed up by giving them a few compliments on what she have been doing well.  Don’t forget to continue with the  encouraging words.

These are just a few tips to help you be the “point guard” of your team. It might not be easy to do these things all the time, but trust me if you keep working and constantly practice using these characteristics  they will become second nature . Your teammate will have nothing but great respect for. You can be a leader even if you are not involved in a sport. All of the topics I wrote about can be applied to your club or activity that you are involved in.

Much Lovemuch love,

Jae

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Strength vs. Strength

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We all know that strength is a big part of sports. The real key to sports is being strong enough to handle the physical contact, being able to throw harder and faster than your competitor, and having the capability to hit harder then your opponent.

You may have great strength in your sport, but do you have strength in your life?

Let me ask you another question. Are you strong enough to say “No” to something you don’t want to do? For instance, you are at your best friend’s house and her parents are not home. She asks you if you want a drink of her parent’s alcohol. Will you say “No?” Or will you say “Yes” because she is your best friend.

Strength plays a huge part in sports, but it plays an even bigger part in life. Will you have the strength to stand up and control your life? Will you have the strength to say “No” to drugs and alcohol? And, will you have the strength to stand up for someone who is being bullied?

Be strong! Have the strength to stand up and go against the pressures you might face. Believe in yourself and believe that by standing against what is wrong you will be better off. People will look back and respect and admire you for having the strength to say “No” to the things you knew where wrong.

I have faith that every single one of you can build this strength!

Much Lovemuch love,
Jae

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