Be Yourself

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“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde

It is very important to always be yourself.

It is equally as important to believe in yourself.

The Problem

I’m consistently see girls who lack self-confidence. I am here to let you know you are beautiful and awesome the way you are. I can’t stress this enough!

You should always embrace who you are by being strong and showing the world what you have to offer. Don’t be afraid to stand out in the crowd and do what’s right or what makes you happy. Don’t participant in activities that feel wrong or make you unhappy. Don’t act like someone you are not and don’t let a friend sway you to do something that’s not you.

If you struggle with confidence, then now is the time to take control and take action in discovering who you are. You may be thinking, “Jae, that is easier said than done”. Well, I am here to tell you by taking a few beginner steps toward believing in yourself, you can conquer your lack of self.

Let’s Begin by Being Yourself

I challenge you to write at least five character traits that make you who you are. It can be a personality trait, a physical feature, your taste in fashion, a sport or activity, a goal, etc. After you write out your list, step back and read it again. Begin to embrace who you are and own it. Be proud of your uniqueness and be positive about what you like.

I would really love for you to share your uniqueness with me. Posting your best qualities can help spark others to think about their own. You can tweet me @ JAE_Blog, email them to me jae@jaetaft.com, or leave them as a comment below. I will be posting mine to twitter and this blog.

Really take the time to think about what makes you and embrace it.

If you take anything from this just challenge I would hope that you understand “You” are who defines who you are, not anyone else.

Just be “You”!

Much Lovemuch love,
Jae

Thing that make up me:
1. My love for basketball and working out
2. I’m outgoing and Positive
3. I love setting goals and having dreams
4. My love for fashion
5. my appetite is rather large

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Girls Don’t Let Girls Run Slow

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I want to share with you a new movement I am starting, “Girls Don’t Let Girls Run Slow”.

It has absolutely zero to do with athletic ability. It simply means, as girls, we need to have each others backs.

There are many girls who are struggling somewhere in their life. We need to do all we can to uplift each other by stepping in and lending a hand.

Stop the Drama

One of the biggest problems that cause negative feelings towards each other is drama. Just being in the high school atmosphere you see a lot of it. I have personally witness negative drama ruin friendships, cause tension between individuals who don’t know much about each other, and turn people against one another. Doesn’t drama seem awful? To be honest with you I really don’t like it. The reason being is 99% of the drama that goes on won’t matter within a short period of time. I know this might be hard because you can easily become caught up in the moment, but lets think about how big the issue is compared to the effects it might have later down the road.

Help a Struggling Peer

It is very import ant to be there for one another. When you see a girl struggling, even if it is just a simple math problem, let her know you are there to help even if you are having trouble figuring it out yourself. If you see girl being bullied, then stand up for her and be there for support. Make peers aware they can talk to you about anything and you will be there to listen.

Follow the Right Crowd

One very important message I want to stress and address is if you see a female peer going off on the wrong path by following the wrong coward and experimenting with drugs, alcohol, or any unhealthy choice, then be there to guide her back onto the right path.

Just think about it….if you were struggling, being bullied or starting to follow the wrong path would you want someone to be there for you?

Let’s forget about the clicks and the popularity. I believe we need to pick others up around us. Help one another and be there for each other. Make each other feel good about themselves. I’m not saying you have to be the best of friends. But that doesn’t mean you can’t be friendly to one other.

Girls, don’t let girls run slow!

Much Lovemuch love,
Jae

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You Are Beautiful

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“Beauty is being the best possible version of yourself on the inside” – Unknown

This quote is so right on because beauty is truly not all about looks.

You are Beautiful

You don’t have to be the prettiest or most popular girl in school for people to like and respect you. It makes me very sad when I read negative social media post girls write. Many times these posts are about how ugly they are, how fat they are or how some body part is out of proportion…Girls YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!

If I could give you one piece of advice it would be to STOP putting yourself down and always remember to be your #1 FAN.

It is so true. You really do need to be more concerned about how beautiful you are on the inside. To me, being beautiful on the inside means:

  • Being genuinely nice to someone.
  • Being strong.
  • Being grateful.
  • Being positve.
  • Standing up for what is right.
  • Helping someone in need.
  • Being loyal and reliable.
  • Being a great friend.
  • Being inspiring.
  • Being caring.
  • Having good morals.
  • Being confident
  • Let’s take a closer look at one trait I believe is very important. That is being confident in your own skin. Confidence can go along way. If someone sees that you are confident good things can happen like, a lead role in a play or video, getting a job that many applied for, or making a spot on a high level team. Building your confidence is possible, but it may take a little work.

    If you have struggled or are struggling with being confident or believing you are beautiful and you want to share your story, send it to me. If you give me permission I will post your story. If you allow me to post your story, my guess is you will help someone just by sharing how you overcame your feelings about yourself or how you are currently dealing with it.

    Much Lovemuch love,
    Jae

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