Be Yourself

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“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde

It is very important to always be yourself.

It is equally as important to believe in yourself.

The Problem

I’m consistently see girls who lack self-confidence. I am here to let you know you are beautiful and awesome the way you are. I can’t stress this enough!

You should always embrace who you are by being strong and showing the world what you have to offer. Don’t be afraid to stand out in the crowd and do what’s right or what makes you happy. Don’t participant in activities that feel wrong or make you unhappy. Don’t act like someone you are not and don’t let a friend sway you to do something that’s not you.

If you struggle with confidence, then now is the time to take control and take action in discovering who you are. You may be thinking, “Jae, that is easier said than done”. Well, I am here to tell you by taking a few beginner steps toward believing in yourself, you can conquer your lack of self.

Let’s Begin by Being Yourself

I challenge you to write at least five character traits that make you who you are. It can be a personality trait, a physical feature, your taste in fashion, a sport or activity, a goal, etc. After you write out your list, step back and read it again. Begin to embrace who you are and own it. Be proud of your uniqueness and be positive about what you like.

I would really love for you to share your uniqueness with me. Posting your best qualities can help spark others to think about their own. You can tweet me @ JAE_Blog, email them to me jae@jaetaft.com, or leave them as a comment below. I will be posting mine to twitter and this blog.

Really take the time to think about what makes you and embrace it.

If you take anything from this just challenge I would hope that you understand “You” are who defines who you are, not anyone else.

Just be “You”!

Much Lovemuch love,
Jae

Thing that make up me:
1. My love for basketball and working out
2. I’m outgoing and Positive
3. I love setting goals and having dreams
4. My love for fashion
5. my appetite is rather large

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Fun in the Sun

Summer is by far my favorite time of the year. I love the warm temperatures, freedom from school, and the fun opportunities summer offers.

It is awesome to being able to walk out my door without having to put on a jacket. For me, warm weather makes my attitude towards everyday situations more positive. Warm weather is a mood brightener and makes you feel good about life.

Summertime is an escape for students like me. There is a huge break from homework and we don’t have to get up bright and early in the morning, five days a week. I am an early riser, but six o’clock is too early for me. Summer is a great stress reliever from school. Students have time to relax and not worry about a three page essay due in only a few day.

Opportunities are endless when summer comes around. During the summer I become more focused on writing my blog and creating YouTube videos. It also gives me opportunities to put more time into training for basketball and strength. You may have certain things in your life that you would want to put more focus on and summer is the perfect time to do so.

Travel with your family, sit poolside all day, go to the zoo, or start a summer long project. Summer is full of adventure if you want it to be, so go explore it!

I wish you a very sunny summer. And remember, have tons of fun in the sun!

Much Lovemuch love,
Jae

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Being a Leader

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Different sports are played in different seasons, while some seem to always be in season. Whether your sport is in-seasons or  pre-season,  I hope your training is going well.

I wanted to take a minute and write about what it means to be the “point guard” or the “quarterback” of your team. Keep in mind, I am not just talking about the sport of basketball or football. I talking about what defines a leader of a team. Most often if you are placed in one of these two positions, you possess leadership qualities. This is not always the case. If you don’t currently have the characteristics of a leader, there is no reason why you cannot learn.

Characteristics of a Point Guard

Here are a few characteristics that are very important to possess:

  • Carry the Team on Your Back– By this I don’t mean you have the best stats on the team. What I do mean is the players on your team know that you have there back . You lead them to success. You take the blame for some things that you know it’s not your fault and you do things that help benefit the team.
  • Be an Encourager– Be your teammates biggest fan. Always clap and talk during practices and games. Be very enthusiastic and upbeat.
  • Always Make Eye Contact– Always know what’s going on. Regularly look your teammates in the eyes and show them you care. Be a great listener. Always have eye contact with coaches while they are teaching you and have a nice solid stance. Stand with feet shoulder width apart with your arms in front or behind your body. Do not lean on one leg looking around or day dreaming about what is going on after practice.  I can’t emphasize this enough….always make eye contact!
  • Be a Respectable Person – Be a great competitor on the playing field. Be nice and respectful to people. Post game, be sure to clean up after yourself or team. If you see a piece of trash, then pick it up and throw it out.  Have integrity and don’t just be a good person when your coach is watching. Be good person all the time. Simple remember…no trash on or off the floor!
  • Be Vocal – Direct your teammates and encourage them. You don’t just yell at them in a hateful manner because they made a mistake. Walk up to them and explain what they should have done, followed up by giving them a few compliments on what she have been doing well.  Don’t forget to continue with the  encouraging words.

These are just a few tips to help you be the “point guard” of your team. It might not be easy to do these things all the time, but trust me if you keep working and constantly practice using these characteristics  they will become second nature . Your teammate will have nothing but great respect for. You can be a leader even if you are not involved in a sport. All of the topics I wrote about can be applied to your club or activity that you are involved in.

Much Lovemuch love,

Jae

photo credit: lumaxart

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